Psalm 37:1-11,39-40 v 8 “Stop being angry! Turn from your rage! Do not lose your temper- it only leads to harm.
“Trust Him and he will help you. Be still in the presence of the Lord and wait patiently for Him to act. Stop being angry! God saves them, and they find shelter in Him.”
For many years of my marriage, I mirrored what I had seen my parents do have a good old argument, clear the air, and carry on. In fact, I said to others that I was nervous when couples said they did not argue, that it showed that they were not communicating. And yes, I read the once popular book “Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus” and laughed maybe along with God because why would two such different beings be encouraged to live together? Getting angry seemed to be part of my life.
My husband and I eventually had to go to counselling where we found a different way to communicate, to realize that if you were angry, to try and find the real problem and to talk about that in a respectful way so that the other person could hear what you were saying. Changing the way you think and act has led us down a path of acceptance and understanding. Oh, I still get angry, but not as much, not as intensely. Reading the bible has also helped, actively spending time in quiet meditation on the word of God has an amazingly calming effect that carries into your day. And my husband found good advice when involved in minor hockey. The “24 hour rule” . Take time out , maybe write down what you are feeling then put it away for 24 hours. Revisit the problem 24 hours later and then decide what to do. Listen also to the good advice here in the psalm” turn from your rage. Do not lose your temper it can only lead to harm” “Find shelter in Him”
Prayer: Loving Father thank you for being the calm in my busy day, the quiet center I can focus on when I get angry with those around me. Give me wisdom to understand the needs of others in Jesus name we pray. Amen.
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